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Loop Breaker - Day 4 of 30 - Things That Make My Life Easier

Updated: Feb 23


I'm Jaren, a neurodivergent Mom of neurodivergent kids going back to school in my 40's. In this series, I'll be posting about things that make my life easier. 


What can I say? The news is getting to me. All last week I was feeling helpless, and then, as I was going over what to present for the 30 Days of Things That Make My Life Easier, I realized I could use my own tool to pull myself out of feeling hopeless and helpless, so I hit record and walked through the entire process (9 steps to transform your thoughts) in this video right here.



I call this process Loop Breaker.


Here it is. Btw, you can purchase the paper copy here if you want to support my small business, but I am also happy to share the digital version here if you’re more of a digital organizer.



It’s quite easy - you just follow the prompts of Loop Breaker working from left to right. Click on the digital version linked above to see a sample.


Here are the prompts:


  1. Area of Life

This could be General, Friendship, Romance, Pet Ownership, Art Creation, Work, etc.


  1. What I hear/tell myself. My Loop.

This is what I’m hearing over and over again. Either from myself or from others. Things like critical self-talk, something I perceive as criticism, etc.


  1. How it makes me feel

This is pretty self explanatory. I try to keep it down to one or two emotional descriptors like: angry, sad, worried, anxious, helpless, hopeless, etc.


  1. What is the self-limiting belief behind this?

These loops don’t just come out of nowhere. There’s almost always a self-limiting belief behind them. Identifying them can be tricky, so sometimes I just ask myself what the most insecure version of myself is feeling in that moment.


  1. Do I truly believe it?

This is where I get to challenge that insecure version of myself. I get to ask my soul what it really thinks. And let me tell you, it almost always puts its arms around me in a warm hug and lets the insecure side of me know that everything is alright, and that I don’t really need to believe what I think. 


  1. Eating Well? Hydrated?

Sometimes my blood sugar is low and dehydration prevents me from thinking clearly. Easy fix.


  1. Getting good sleep?

This is so important. Good sleep can change my mood entirely. Sometimes I just need a damn nap.


  1. Anything I can do differently? 

This is where I can take responsibility for my thoughts and actions (or inaction). I need to be real here. What can I do to change my outcome?


  1. How can I reframe this into a better-feeling thought? Present tense.

This is where the magic happens. I’ve walked myself through the process and now I get to partner with my soul to rewrite how I want to think and feel. I write it in present tense as if I already feel that way. After some repetitions, I start to really feel it. And if I forget, it’s easy for me to flip through the pages of the book and reread the column full of all my new thought patterns as a reminder of how I’m choosing to reframe issues in my life.



I hope this helps. Really and truly. This tool has helped me so much in the past as I’ve navigated my anxiety. I have an even more advanced version in mind down the road, for those who want to take this method even further. Join the newsletter and I’ll keep you updated.


Thanks for sticking around. Take care of yourselves during this chaotic time in the world.

-Jaren


P.S., I'm adding these AI-styled photos of my book for you to Pin, if you feel so called. :) Thank you




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